How To Make A Long-Distance Relationship Work [Step by Step Guide]

girl in a long distance relationship blowing a kiss to her partner on the digital pad

“A relationship is to be enjoyed. 
A long-distance relationship is to be enjoy remotely.”

Alex Larryngton

It may seem that a long-distance relationship is a lot of work. In a long-distance relationship, it’s easy to blame the distance when things aren’t going well.

The dynamic of a long-distance relationship is different from a regular relationship. One significant difference is the way you communicate. To make your long-distance relationship work it’s worth learning the right way to share your feelings with your partner.

While the distance can complicate your relationship, the problem may be caused by the difference in your personalities. Or you may have different preferences, beliefs, and values.

To help you resolve problems, we first need to get clear at what is a long-distance relationship. Once we understand what it means to be in a relationship with someone who is not physically present, we can foresee the possible problems and find the best solutions.

We’ll explore the problems that the distance brings and the ways to deal with them. I hope that by the end of this article you will see that a long-distance can be an opportunity for you and your relationship. Along the way, I will answer the most common questions and if you have any more, leave them in the comments below.

You’ll learn to identify the state of your emotional connection and I will leave you with some practical questions to understand your relationship and practical exercises to build a strong emotional connection and communicate with clarity.

So let’s dive right in…

  • What is a long-distance relationship?
  • What problems you may face while apart?
  • How does a long-distance affect intimacy in your relationship?
  • Practical ways to have effective communication in a long-distance relationship.
  • How to apply effective communication to your long-distance relationship?

What Problems You Need to Overcome for Your Long-Distance Relationship to Work

One of the main problems is the lack of physical intimacy. A romantic relationship involves physical closeness and when you can’t share a physical connection with the person you love, there is a void. After some time you may feel increasingly distant from each other. While physical distance can be managed, it’s the emotional connection that keeps your relationship alive.

Lack of Physical Intimacy Makes it Hard to Make Your Long-Distance Relationship Work

In a long-distance relationship, the hardest thing is to be away from your partner. Most of the time it’s because of circumstances rather than out of choice. It’s difficult to maintain your relationship without physical affection.

You don’t get the comfort of physical touch, a kiss or a hug. Physical closeness helps you feel safe, calm, and content. Without it, it’s hard to judge the state of your relationship.

The distance can strain your relationship, making it hard to remain emotionally connected. In this situation, you may feel helpless. It may seem that all you can do is wait. You need to decide if you want to suck it up and stick it out or make your long-distance relationship work.

2 people in a long-distance relationship connecting across the world

To Make Your Long-Distance Relationship Work, Emotional Connection is Essential

In a long-distance relationship, your connection relies on emotional intimacy. You can maintain an emotional connection with effective communication. This can bring clarity to your relationship and help you survive the long distance.

A simple tweak in communication can help you avoid arguments and bad feelings. You can improve your communication with your partner following 3 simple rules. With practice, you will no longer be afraid to express your feelings and desires.

A long-distance relationship can be hard and may feel like a struggle, but it doesn’t have to be. 
I will show you how to turn it around.

Effective communication is essential in making a long-distance relationship work. You can learn more about it in this article.

3 Steps to making your long-distance relationship work:

  1. Learn your preferences.
  2. Find out how the distance affects your relationship.
  3. Use effective communication to work out your differences.


A long-distance relationship is hard for most people. But as we’ve seen, it doesn’t have to be. 
Following the steps above, you no longer have to just ‘make it work’, you can make it fun.

You want to do all you can to make your long-distance relationship work. 
But, if it doesn’t work, you now have the tools to talk about it and separate on good terms.


  • Apply effective communication to maintain a connection with your partner.
  • An open and honest conversation can reassure you that your relationship is going great.
  • Knowing that you can express exactly how you feel, gives you a sense of security.
  • Get clear on what you want and what your partner wants for yourselves as individuals and for your relationship.
  • Use the 3 steps above to build trust and freely express how you feel and what you want.
  • Make a plan that meets your individual needs and sets you on the right path to a healthy long-term relationship.

If you found this article helpful, share it with people whom it can help.
Tell us about your experience of a long-distance relationship in the comments below. 
It will reassure others in the same situation that they are not alone.
Check out the FAQ page for more information.

Now you can let go of the belief that relationships are hard. 
Your relationship is what you make it. 
So get creative.

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I hope that this article answered some of your questions. If you are struggling and could do with more help, send me a message so we can talk about your situation in more detail.

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alex larryngton - health and relationship coach

Hi! I’m Alex.

Welcome to my blog. I spent my past 13 years learning and practicing holistic therapies. I also like to reflect on life and understand human behaviour. Over the past 19 years I’ve red different books from Dale Carnegie and Louise Hay to Joe Navarro and Marshall Rosenberg.

Feel free to browse my articles on relationships, health and check out the faq pages for common questions. 

If you need help or just want to connect, I’d love to hear from you.

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