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Relationship Coaching for Couples

Hi, I’m Alex.

Welcome to my coaching page.
Here you can find helpful articles, book an online appointment or send me a message.

Be committed to the relationship you have with yourself. We get so committed to other relationships, but often sort of toss ourselves away. We get around to ourselves only now and then. So, really care for who you are. Be committed to loving yourself. Take care of your heart and soul.

Guidance & support for couples in love who want to build a strong relationship based on trust and understanding.

 

  1. We’ll have a session with you, the person who made the first step. I will hear you out and offer some suggestions.
  2. I will have a chat with your partner to understand their point of view.
  3. We’ll have a group session with you and your partner so we can find a common ground and pave a way forward.
 
Best results happen when both partners can recognise the problem and want to find a solution. Check out this article to learn how online coaching can help your relationship.

Frequently Asked Questions

Why do you coach couples online
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I live a nomad lifestyle. When I was 15, I moved to a different country. This move was hard, but it helped me realise that norms, values and beliefs are relative. Over the next 20 years I've learnt about human behaviour. Now I am sharing this knowledge with couples who need clarity in their relationship.
How are you different
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My approach is based on the idea that relationship is a union of two individuals. Hence, exploring each person separately is the key to building a strong and healthy relationship.
How much does it cost
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Live chat - £30 / hour. Unlimited messages - £40 / week. Coaching program - £900 / 9 weeks.
What do you know about relationships
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In my life, just like anyone else, I walked on the clouds, falling in love and cried myself to sleep after being told: 'I just don't love you anymore' & 'The long distance is not working for me'. Inevitably I had to move on at times as well, which in some ways was even harder. One thing I did, every time, was to reflect on what I can do better next time. Now I have a list.
What motivates you to help couples
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My parents divorced when I was 5, so growing up, I did not spend much time with my dad. As a result, my life had its challenges. Although I can not change the past, I can certainly help other parents and parents to be, make sure that their children get the best of both worlds.
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How quickly you will see the results depends on how easy or difficult it is for you to implement the changes. We’ll make a plan together, but you will be the one doing it. 

I am here to support you all the way, but you are the person responsible for creating the change.

Our first session is for us to get to know each other. If we are a fit, then we can identify what you really want and brainstorm different ways to get there.

As you progress, you will evolve and your goals may change. So every now and then we’ll have a review session to make sure we are on the right track.

Tell me your problem and let’s see what we can do about it.

Online Session

30 minutes

£40 / €45 / $50

Ongoing Support

1 week

£200 / €230 / $260

I’M HERE TO HELP!

Briefly outline your problem and what you would like to achieve

100% confidential • no obligation • no commitment

Joao Afonso Baretto Ramus
Joao Afonso Baretto Ramus
Portugal
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"There was a time in my life when I thought I had it all, but still felt unfulfilled and at many points, unhappy. Talking with Alex really turned my life around. He helped me realise many things about my life, including that the relationship I was in was not healthy. You could say I was a drifting boat, and Alex showed me how to power it towards a future of my own!"
Ainsley Temudo
Ainsley Temudo
Abu Dhabi
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Talking to Alex pushed me to get to know myself, I had to face the ugly reality of my choices. It was challenging asking myself why I do what I do. Expecting all the answers right away. Now, I understand that it's a process that takes time, but in the end it's life changing. It has certainly changed mine for the better.

ATTACHMENT

We tend to associate this phenomenon with neediness (lacking necessities in life, needing emotional support). But what happens when we strip it down to the meaning as defined by the dictionary?

definition of attachment: 
Affection (a gentle feeling of fondness or liking), fondness (affection or liking for someone or something) or sympathy (feelings of pity and sorrow for someone else’s misfortune) for someone or something.

So here we have gentle feeling of affection and pity with sorrow all in one

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1. the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.
2. an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action.

When it comes to relationships, first definition of commitment demonstrates to the readiness to put the work in to make a relationship work. The second definition, on the other hand points carries with it the restriction of freedom. 

No wonder it can get confusing when two people are talking about committed relationship. It’s hard to make sense of things when even the dictionary defines commitment in two opposite ways: 1 – you are willing to do what it takes to make a relationship work and 2 – is you are essentially stuck with an obligation of having to be in this predicament. 

So let’s debug this relationship conundrum and figure out what it means to make a relationship work…

COMMITMENT

FAIRNESS

The idea of fairness penetrates very deeply in every aspects  of our minds and our lives. 

Definition:
Impartial and just treatment or behaviour without favouritism or discrimination.

The key word in this definition is ‘just’. When we are looking for fairness, we are essentially judging ourselves, another person or the situation. But who is the judge? Who is to decide what’s right and what’s wrong? 

 

Definition:
The quality of being honest.

So being honest is telling the truth. Pretty straightforward, right?

On the surface it’s a simple thing: you either tell the truth or you don’t. Though many of us fail in even doing this much. We think that it’s ok to tell a lie or omit the truth if the circumstances call for it. 

There are two aspects to this: moralistic and practical. We can morally judge if it’s right or wrong to tell a lie. Practically every action has a reaction. This means that the outcome depends on the action and not if this action was done for the right or the wrong reason. Unless you are dealing with another person who is also acting based on their moralistic judgement. This can get complicated as their right and wrong may differ from your right and wrong.

So, is it possible to be honest in a relationship? And what would such a relationship look like? (From personal experience…)

 

HONESTY

UNDERSTANDING

Definitions:
1. the ability to understand something; comprehension.
“foreign visitors with little understanding of English”
– the power of abstract thought; intellect. “a child of sufficient intelligence and understanding”
– an individual’s perception or judgement of a situation.”my understanding was that he would find a new supplier”

2. sympathetic awareness or tolerance.
“he wrote with understanding and affection of the people of Dent”

3. an informal or unspoken agreement or arrangement.
“he and I have an understanding”